JP, my husband, and I were watching a football game last Sunday, at home, no party, just the two of us. He had gone fishing in the morning. When he came home we relaxed with some appetizers and got ready to watch the game. I pulled up the ottoman so we could eat my football menu of food that is so bad for you we can only eat it on Sundays! After we ate dinner, with his feet up, in the middle of the game he said, this is the life!
I. LOVED. THAT!
I take it as he is happy and enjoying this current moment in our life. These are five possible ways to get your husband to say this is the life too…
1. Do my own thing while he does his.
As I mentioned above JP went fishing in the morning while I walked around Target, one of my fave pastimes. We were both able to get some ME time and do the things we like to do without worrying that the other person is bored and ready to go home. Time apart can rejuvenate us to be excited when we finally get back together and can discuss our experience from earlier in the day.
2. Feed him.
The reason old sayings are still said is because there is some truth to them. They say a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I don’t know who they are but I will listen because every time I have cooked JP’s favorite foods I get some appreciation from him and I know that he is happy to have me taking care of this basic need of nourishment. I’m not saying or even trying to have the perfect meal cooked every night before he gets home because that is impossible and not happening no matter what they say, but it’s a nice surprise every once in awhile.
3. Be appreciative.
Relationships are going to have ups and downs. So, when the times are good, be happy in those moments. If I hear him say, this is the life, that puts a smile on my face and I can appreciate the work that we have put in to get to this place.
4. Take credit for being a good wife.
Since we are such big parts of each other’s lives I like to take a little credit for him feeling this way, and he can take some credit for me being grateful and loving my life. I realize that a person cannot make someone else happy, but being receptive to what they respond positively to can go a long way. And you should take credit for being observant because that is not easy to do.
5. Respond positively!
This cannot be over said. I truly believe in positive reinforcement, when he says, this is the life, I don’t think to nag him about how the laundry could have been done or he could have gotten to something on my list of to-dos around the house. Instead, respond with, I know right?!? Because he is right, we have a great life and I want both of us to constantly remember that.